My Trauma Mamma is a Source of Inspiration

My trauma mamma is your own source of inspiration to keep going through the necessary steps it takes to go from pain to pleasure. I want this to be about your feelings and my cooperation on helping you process them, identify them and finally make changes for your life that may not be available otherwise. This information I'm giving you is free of charge because I feel like I can't just help some people. I would like to help many people take control of their lives once again after they have suffered. This blog is not about focusing on hurting, but about empowerment. It is about learning and understanding the complexities of what goes on for you before, during and after your trauma. I address trauma from a physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and psychic standpoint.

I will talk about what causes it, how to better work with it and then show you what video demonstration along the way to help keep you inspired. I am open to questions while treking through this black and white area and am also open to seeing you in person if the need or desire should arise. I am also available on Skype (just ask), by phone and in a private session format in San Francisco and other cities upon request.

Talking trauma can be either a devestating topic filled with horrific stories, or it can be a source of empowerment. Once you shift from your pain to something other, the process gets easier. My story is that for many years, I have been recovering from some sort of trauma. Some physical, sexual, and/or emotional, and some even psychic.

A little lesson about trauma and how it plays on your system.
Lesson One: Trauma is emotional, not just physical. That is the first myth to dispell. According to our health care system and the way the political format is done here in the US, trauma has not nearly been given the headlines it so deserves except when there is a major crisis like a war, hurricane, or 911. Trauma rings in the ears of most people as something that is big, wrong, corrupt and most of the time people think that trauma is an absolute. Meaning, trauma happens in only these circumstances (as mentioned earlier).
The Truth is:
Trauma is everywhere, but we just don't know what to call it. Trauma happens when a child first goes to school. Trauma appears when you hang up the phone realizing you forgot to say I love you and soon come to regret that. Trauma comes when your taking a shower for the millionth time and this time for some reason, it burns you. Trauma happens when you forget your homework, when your boss yells at you, when you cross the street and realize it was a red light. No matter what, trauma is a big word, however it really needs another word to go by its side to describe the little traumas we endure everyday.
The Truth is: trauma occurs in your body and mind on a day to day basis. It *does* not have to be a *big* deal for it to be called trauma. If you are riding in an elevator and it suddenly stops, your heart races, blood pressure goes up, organs in your body begin to shut down...immediately. I'm serious. Your body reacts to threat as if you will die. It doesn't matter whether it is thunder you hear, or your partner telling you they want to date other people, it is all a bodily reaction that acts to protect you to survive in that moment. It's called fight or flight. Once there has been a perceived threat (and by the way it is all about perception, not always about it actually happening), the human system gets ready to defend, survive and fight if need be. So, when you're threatened, you either fight (kick, shake, scream, etc) or you flee (flight)- run away as fast as you possibly can. This reaction is known as just that. Being a reaction to a perceived threat. However, if you know your body well, you can learn to control this impulse over time and there will be a lot less of an opportunity to *freak out*.
Truth is:
A traumatic impulse is there to *protect* you not to destroy you. Just like a signal of pain, it is actually making you focus, overfocus in fact. All systems help one another to do this from the amagdala in the brain to the heart. The interesting thing in studying it is that once you really realize what reactions are playing out, you can then begin to see and measure how you react and emote to each situation. I will teach you how in posts to come.
All in all, this post is about learning what trauma is, learning that little threats are also trauma, and beginning to realize that you might have more control over it then you think you do.